Why 'Netflix and Chill' is Not a Date (and What You Should Be Doing Instead)
- Truth Slayer
- Feb 18, 2023
- 3 min read
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Netflix and Chill is a popular phrase that has become synonymous with casually watching Netflix together and, perhaps more often than not, engaging in sexual activities afterwards.
It's an easy way to get together without having to make any real effort or put yourself out there, but it's definitely not the same as a real date.
Netflix and chill isn't going to lead to anything meaningful or memorable; it's just Netflix, after all!
➤ Netflix and Chill vs. Real Date
When it comes to Netflix and chill, there isn't much effort involved. You can just text your partner “Wanna Netflix and chill?” and be done with it. But when you are going on a real date, there is usually more thought that goes into it such as planning, preparation, or even finding something interesting for the two of you to do together. Netflix and Chill has potential to lead to boredom or awkwardness because there's no substance behind it – it just becomes something that you both do without any real intention.
A real date should involve some type of connection between the two people, whether through physical contact or through conversation. It should also have a purpose – to get to know each other better, to spend quality time together, or to have fun. Netflix and chill is just an excuse for Netflix and not much else.
➤ Alternatives to Netflix and Chill
So if Netflix and chill isn't the way to go, what can you do instead? There are plenty of alternatives that can still involve Netflix (if you really want it!), but also provide more opportunity for meaningful connection. Ideas might include:
- Going for a picnic in the park with some snacks, a few drinks, and Netflix on your phone
- Taking a bike ride around town or through nature trails
- Cooking dinner together before settling into an evening of Netflix
- Going out for dinner or drinks
- Taking a class together (cooking, painting, dancing, etc.)
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What this means, is that just about anything else you do is a better option than Netflix and Chill. In other words, there are a multitude of activities that would be more fulfilling and engaging than simply watching television and engaging in a casual physical relationship. Did you forget that there is a whole world out there?
Furthermore, opting for just about anything else besides "Netflix and Chill" can broaden one's horizons and lead to new experiences, opportunities, and growth. By trying out new activities or exploring new places with a potential partner, individuals can discover shared interests, learn more about each other's values, and build a stronger sense of mutual respect.
It's important to acknowledge that there may be certain circumstances where "Netflix and Chill" could be a valid choice. For example, if both individuals are simply looking for a physical relationship without any expectations of emotional attachment or commitment, "Netflix and Chill" may be a suitable option.
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In any case, it's important to be honest and clear about one's intentions, so that both parties can enter the date with the same understanding and expectations.
In conclusion, Netflix and Chill may seem like an easy go-to date option, but it doesn't provide any real connection. Real dates involve effort and have the potential to lead to something more meaningful. By prioritizing meaningful connection and open communication, individuals can create a more satisfying and fulfilling dating experience, regardless of the activity they choose to do.
Ultimately, the decision of what to do on a date should be based on what feels right for both individuals, taking into account their goals, values, and desires.
Good luck, and happy dating!
